My story with DHS starts in 2015 when me and my children fled DV to a DV shealter. We lived there for almost 2 years. I was attending all my classes and eventually moved out into my own home. I did allow limited contact with the Dad due to two letters received from DHS Oklahoma Co (one in 12/2015 and 3/2016) stating NO THREAT of Harm found, alligations unsubtatinable. On 4/23 my children were removed from my home due to history of DV and THREAT of HARM. Now let me be totally honest I did not live with him, but did allow him to see children.
I understood why DHS took them due to a new occurance of DV. I complied 1000% with the ISP I was given. In over a year and half I had perfect attendence in all classes, meetings, hearing, visitation etc. I was told by my CW supervisor " in over 15+ years she had never seen a parent jump as many hurdles as I had." My two small children where placed in kinship in Rogers County, I lived and worked in Oklahoma County. I had visitation with them 4 to 5 times a week, in which I drove to/from Rogers County to exercise. I attended every Dr/Dentist/therapy appt my children had while in custody. Judge Ryan would tell me he kept me last on his docket because I was the only bright spot in his day!!!
When it came time to reunify with my children, Judge Ryan was going to move them into a foster home in Oklahoma County, I objected and told he give me 2-3 weeks and I would be in Tulsa with a job and a place to live to start the process. I did it in less than 15 days. Official reunification stat date 01/09/17 and finalized on 7/13/17. Fast-forwarded to today and DHS has removed my children under EMERGENCY ORDER again due to THREAT of HARM. They have not been to my home for any reason since my case closed in July. I work, we have our own place and they attend school and all medical/emotional needs are being met. They claimed they removed them due to supervised contact with their Dad.
In my court order signed by Judge Ryan it states visitation is at my discretion but must be supervised. AT NO POINT WAS I EVER TOLD HE WAS TO HAVE NO CONTACT WITH THEM. According to the paper I was served and the meeting I had with DHS "Any reasonable person would have understand that by being told "at my discretion" really means NEVER. Talk about reading between the lines and being expected to be a mind reader!!!!! I took the children to my sister that lives 12 hours away. Now any logical person would think if SAFTEY is their concern then my children being 3 states away from their Dad with no possible of contact but while still being with family and most importantly people they know and love would make the most sense, right? WRONG
Oklahoma thinks yanking them and placing them in a hallway in a DHS building 3 states away to be picked up and flown back to OK. My sister complied with everything she was asked to do, even drove the children to the DHS office in her state over an hour away. Stayed w/ the children until she was rudely told to leave. It bears menitioning that my sister was there from 4p - 10:30p during this time no one from DHS checked on my children, offered them anything to eat or drink, brushed their teeth or got the ready for bed, my children are 3 and 4 10:30 is well passed their bedtime. My brother-in-law brought up pizza and drinks after he got off from work and again they live and work about and hour away.
If I had done this I would have been accused of CHILD NEGELCT!!!!!! and I ask how is this better for my children? how is this providing beter more safe adquate care for my children? I am by no means a perfect parent but I love my children and have proven that through my actions... DHS is a invasive enity that tears loviing families apart for the sake of "adminstrative rules" with No COMMON SENSE... PERIOD!!!! I pray that someone somewhere fixes this and gives this agency the re-structring and oversight it so desperatly needs before other families and torn apart and damaged possible beyond repair.
Tulsa Co. DHS Reviews
My story with DHS starts in 2015 when me and my children fled DV to a DV shealter. We lived there for almost 2 years. I was attending all my classes and eventually moved out into my own home. I did allow limited contact with the Dad due to two letters received from DHS Oklahoma Co (one in 12/2015 and 3/2016) stating NO THREAT of Harm found, alligations unsubtatinable. On 4/23 my children were removed from my home due to history of DV and THREAT of HARM. Now let me be totally honest I did not live with him, but did allow him to see children.
I understood why DHS took them due to a new occurance of DV. I complied 1000% with the ISP I was given. In over a year and half I had perfect attendence in all classes, meetings, hearing, visitation etc. I was told by my CW supervisor " in over 15+ years she had never seen a parent jump as many hurdles as I had." My two small children where placed in kinship in Rogers County, I lived and worked in Oklahoma County. I had visitation with them 4 to 5 times a week, in which I drove to/from Rogers County to exercise. I attended every Dr/Dentist/therapy appt my children had while in custody. Judge Ryan would tell me he kept me last on his docket because I was the only bright spot in his day!!!
When it came time to reunify with my children, Judge Ryan was going to move them into a foster home in Oklahoma County, I objected and told he give me 2-3 weeks and I would be in Tulsa with a job and a place to live to start the process. I did it in less than 15 days. Official reunification stat date 01/09/17 and finalized on 7/13/17. Fast-forwarded to today and DHS has removed my children under EMERGENCY ORDER again due to THREAT of HARM. They have not been to my home for any reason since my case closed in July. I work, we have our own place and they attend school and all medical/emotional needs are being met. They claimed they removed them due to supervised contact with their Dad.
In my court order signed by Judge Ryan it states visitation is at my discretion but must be supervised. AT NO POINT WAS I EVER TOLD HE WAS TO HAVE NO CONTACT WITH THEM. According to the paper I was served and the meeting I had with DHS "Any reasonable person would have understand that by being told "at my discretion" really means NEVER. Talk about reading between the lines and being expected to be a mind reader!!!!! I took the children to my sister that lives 12 hours away. Now any logical person would think if SAFTEY is their concern then my children being 3 states away from their Dad with no possible of contact but while still being with family and most importantly people they know and love would make the most sense, right? WRONG
Oklahoma thinks yanking them and placing them in a hallway in a DHS building 3 states away to be picked up and flown back to OK. My sister complied with everything she was asked to do, even drove the children to the DHS office in her state over an hour away. Stayed w/ the children until she was rudely told to leave. It bears menitioning that my sister was there from 4p - 10:30p during this time no one from DHS checked on my children, offered them anything to eat or drink, brushed their teeth or got the ready for bed, my children are 3 and 4 10:30 is well passed their bedtime. My brother-in-law brought up pizza and drinks after he got off from work and again they live and work about and hour away.
If I had done this I would have been accused of CHILD NEGELCT!!!!!! and I ask how is this better for my children? how is this providing beter more safe adquate care for my children? I am by no means a perfect parent but I love my children and have proven that through my actions... DHS is a invasive enity that tears loviing families apart for the sake of "adminstrative rules" with No COMMON SENSE... PERIOD!!!! I pray that someone somewhere fixes this and gives this agency the re-structring and oversight it so desperatly needs before other families and torn apart and damaged possible beyond repair.