My (now ex) fiancée checked into Seeking integrity earlier this year in 2022. We were concerned about some of the bad reviews on websites other than on their own official site, but he went anyway. This was a big mistake. The therapists at Seeking Integrity seemed very nice in the beginning but turned out to be hugely discriminatory, judgmental & unprofessional.
Especially to betrayed partners/spouses! How? It is a complete rip off and very deceptive they way they run things. They will say whatever needed to reel in clients, then things change. Within the first few days they will determine they need the addict there "more time". Of course, more time spent in their overnight program is a LOT more money.
Close to $20k Then even worse, if your partner has a problem with lying, that's when things continue to go downhill. It is evident they do NOT care about the real truth in all the cases they receive, especially when it involves couples. They will generally listen to the addict, but NOT the partner/spouse. It’s even worse if the seeking integrity therapists have prejudged the spouse for whatever reason.
They will either not hear their side at all or not take it seriously - even if the partner was the one cheated on, lied to, or even if open records and check ins had been preplanned in advance. Doesn't matter- Michelle, their family therapist will ignore it anyway, gaslight & cast her own biased, destructive judgment instead in an effort to point the finger of blame on the easiest thing, rather than get to the true root cause.
It is evident she does not care how this can horribly & negatively impact the entire outcome of the addict's treatment & even their family. This causes the addict a huge disservice in their treatment, because the therapy becomes based on misinformation and the personal misperceptions of the therapist, rather than real, truthful, unbiased therapy, making things counterproductive.
It can also include omission of important facts & enabling the addict, making them feel falsely entitled, where the addict is able to easily continue with false stories, lying, blame shifting, fake victimhood, manipulation & more excuses to justify their bad behavior. This is devastating to the betrayed partner/spouse to find out after it’s too late the “therapy” time & money has been wasted, their truthful side was never properly heard & instead, their relationship is now destroyed and the problem now worse as the addict feels even MORE entitled.
There is MUCH better, unbiased, more ethical & professional treatment elsewhere. The SI therapists tend to forget most addicts at their core do not play by the same rules of moral conduct. They lack humility, empathy, feel faultless, entitled & have no true remorse for their actions. They are able to callously break commitments & promises to those they claim to love. Cheating is manipulative & narcissistic in itself.
Infidelity, lying, & blame shifting is an abusive, deceit problem that makes the addict feel powerful. They use therapy to manipulate further and may go to whatever lengths to discredit, blameshift, and shame whomever caught them to "save face" & their reputation because they were caught. These are all deep character flaws that can't be fixed. It isn't anywhere in the ballpark of "integrity" at all.
It takes very specialized therapy with competent therapists that includes & a LOT of accountability. It is NOT you'll get at S.I. They want to do what's easiest for them while accepting the most money. In other words, they are very comfortable coddling the one paying the big $$ (the cheater/addict/client) and disrespecting the spouse/betrayed partner. This sub par therapy Seeking Integrity provides makes it look like the addict got "help" but in reality, becomes nothing but a waste of huge money and another excuse to justify his behavior.
S.I. is more concerned about the money to truly care when these things occur, plus no regard for the horrible ripple effect it causes to the entire family of the addict. This is not the first time it's happened. It is definitely a pattern. In situations like these, they are hurting more than they are helping. The diagnosis and advice given is based on whatever misinformation the addict/client may give with no *continued* truth and honesty verification checks in place.
The “therapists” also base their suggestions and advice on the therapist's own personal discrimination, pre-judgment & what is easiest to paint as probable cause instead of the real truth. Only one side will be heard & that is the one with the biggest wallet. That is neither fair, honest, accurate or ethical. As a result, said therapist will misdiagnose, misinform & do the clients a huge injustice by not getting to the root of the problem, thereby ENABLING the addict.
Want a worse problem than with what you started with? Just send them here. Furthermore, S.I. is also very monetarily motivated to keep the client in their care even longer as the client is further negatively influenced by both the inadequate therapy & also by trading sob stories & infidelity notes with the other addict roommates in the program as well, which makes them feel even MORE validated in their bad behavior (think prison mentality). The outcome of this?
Solutions that are just the opposite of what you would expect. Cold, mean, more hateful, unjust, more entitled, unethical, lack of compassion and NOT of true integrity AT ALL. They encourage these addicts that lie and give them a sob story to be extremely mean spirited to the other parties/spouses/partners involved in the name of "healing and sobriety". There is no integrity about this kind of suggested behavior at all.
I encourage anyone who is considering S.I. to RUN, not walk away. Therapy is only as good as the honesty of the participants & the ability the therapist to be professional & fair. Both spouses/partners MUST be included & heard if you are trying to save a relationship. Do not recommend at all!
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My (now ex) fiancée checked into Seeking integrity earlier this year in 2022. We were concerned about some of the bad reviews on websites other than on their own official site, but he went anyway. This was a big mistake. The therapists at Seeking Integrity seemed very nice in the beginning but turned out to be hugely discriminatory, judgmental & unprofessional.
Especially to betrayed partners/spouses! How? It is a complete rip off and very deceptive they way they run things. They will say whatever needed to reel in clients, then things change. Within the first few days they will determine they need the addict there "more time". Of course, more time spent in their overnight program is a LOT more money.
Close to $20k Then even worse, if your partner has a problem with lying, that's when things continue to go downhill. It is evident they do NOT care about the real truth in all the cases they receive, especially when it involves couples. They will generally listen to the addict, but NOT the partner/spouse. It’s even worse if the seeking integrity therapists have prejudged the spouse for whatever reason.
They will either not hear their side at all or not take it seriously - even if the partner was the one cheated on, lied to, or even if open records and check ins had been preplanned in advance. Doesn't matter- Michelle, their family therapist will ignore it anyway, gaslight & cast her own biased, destructive judgment instead in an effort to point the finger of blame on the easiest thing, rather than get to the true root cause.
It is evident she does not care how this can horribly & negatively impact the entire outcome of the addict's treatment & even their family. This causes the addict a huge disservice in their treatment, because the therapy becomes based on misinformation and the personal misperceptions of the therapist, rather than real, truthful, unbiased therapy, making things counterproductive.
It can also include omission of important facts & enabling the addict, making them feel falsely entitled, where the addict is able to easily continue with false stories, lying, blame shifting, fake victimhood, manipulation & more excuses to justify their bad behavior. This is devastating to the betrayed partner/spouse to find out after it’s too late the “therapy” time & money has been wasted, their truthful side was never properly heard & instead, their relationship is now destroyed and the problem now worse as the addict feels even MORE entitled.
There is MUCH better, unbiased, more ethical & professional treatment elsewhere. The SI therapists tend to forget most addicts at their core do not play by the same rules of moral conduct. They lack humility, empathy, feel faultless, entitled & have no true remorse for their actions. They are able to callously break commitments & promises to those they claim to love. Cheating is manipulative & narcissistic in itself.
Infidelity, lying, & blame shifting is an abusive, deceit problem that makes the addict feel powerful. They use therapy to manipulate further and may go to whatever lengths to discredit, blameshift, and shame whomever caught them to "save face" & their reputation because they were caught. These are all deep character flaws that can't be fixed. It isn't anywhere in the ballpark of "integrity" at all.
It takes very specialized therapy with competent therapists that includes & a LOT of accountability. It is NOT you'll get at S.I. They want to do what's easiest for them while accepting the most money. In other words, they are very comfortable coddling the one paying the big $$ (the cheater/addict/client) and disrespecting the spouse/betrayed partner. This sub par therapy Seeking Integrity provides makes it look like the addict got "help" but in reality, becomes nothing but a waste of huge money and another excuse to justify his behavior.
S.I. is more concerned about the money to truly care when these things occur, plus no regard for the horrible ripple effect it causes to the entire family of the addict. This is not the first time it's happened. It is definitely a pattern. In situations like these, they are hurting more than they are helping. The diagnosis and advice given is based on whatever misinformation the addict/client may give with no *continued* truth and honesty verification checks in place.
The “therapists” also base their suggestions and advice on the therapist's own personal discrimination, pre-judgment & what is easiest to paint as probable cause instead of the real truth. Only one side will be heard & that is the one with the biggest wallet. That is neither fair, honest, accurate or ethical. As a result, said therapist will misdiagnose, misinform & do the clients a huge injustice by not getting to the root of the problem, thereby ENABLING the addict.
Want a worse problem than with what you started with? Just send them here. Furthermore, S.I. is also very monetarily motivated to keep the client in their care even longer as the client is further negatively influenced by both the inadequate therapy & also by trading sob stories & infidelity notes with the other addict roommates in the program as well, which makes them feel even MORE validated in their bad behavior (think prison mentality). The outcome of this?
Solutions that are just the opposite of what you would expect. Cold, mean, more hateful, unjust, more entitled, unethical, lack of compassion and NOT of true integrity AT ALL. They encourage these addicts that lie and give them a sob story to be extremely mean spirited to the other parties/spouses/partners involved in the name of "healing and sobriety". There is no integrity about this kind of suggested behavior at all.
I encourage anyone who is considering S.I. to RUN, not walk away. Therapy is only as good as the honesty of the participants & the ability the therapist to be professional & fair. Both spouses/partners MUST be included & heard if you are trying to save a relationship. Do not recommend at all!