Joseph Dalton destroyed my marriage. Firstly, my marriage was not stellar to begin with: My wife was abusive to me and was experiencing post partum depression. She wanted us to go to a Christian psychologist. At the recommendation of a church pastor, my wife contacted Joseph Dalton for marraige counseling. He was extraorinarily expensive - about $400 each session. He came off decently at first, and he seemed to be a psychologist. He's not. In fact, he has no license to practice any form of counseling in the state of Oregon. He has no degree from a higher learning intitution. Effectively, he's convinced some local pastors in Bend, Oregon to send people to him for snake oil. On his website, Navahretreats.com, he falsley claims that he's been in business for over 11 years. This is easily proven as false. Look up his whois domain info. Look up his LLC info online. He had a bogus blog previously, and in the 'about' section of that blog, he states that his practices were too unorthodox for the church he was attending, so he started Navah instead. Let's see...so his methods are too risky for a church and are not rooted in a degree program from a college.
So what happened in counseling? How did Joseph Dalton of Navah counseling in Bend, Oregon destroy my marraige? (By the way, I've since spoken with 3 other men who have told me the same story nearly to the T)
Joseph Dalton destroyed my marriage. Firstly, my marriage was not stellar to begin with: My wife was abusive to me and was experiencing post partum depression. She wanted us to go to a Christian psychologist. At the recommendation of a church pastor, my wife contacted Joseph Dalton for marraige counseling. He was extraorinarily expensive - about $400 each session. He came off decently at first, and he seemed to be a psychologist. He's not. In fact, he has no license to practice any form of counseling in the state of Oregon. He has no degree from a higher learning intitution. Effectively, he's convinced some local pastors in Bend, Oregon to send people to him for snake oil. On his website, Navahretreats.com, he falsley claims that he's been in business for over 11 years. This is easily proven as false. Look up his whois domain info. Look up his LLC info online. He had a bogus blog previously, and in the 'about' section of that blog, he states that his practices were too unorthodox for the church he was attending, so he started Navah instead. Let's see...so his methods are too risky for a church and are not rooted in a degree program from a college.
So what happened in counseling? How did Joseph Dalton of Navah counseling in Bend, Oregon destroy my marraige? (By the way, I've since spoken with 3 other men who have told me the same story nearly to the T)
Dalton effectively tossed a grenade into the room & walked away. Session after session, Dalton would assign blame to me for all of our problems, but he never addressed the blame of my wife AT ALL. He would make list after list of nagative words about me: self-centered, angry, blaming, hardened, not loving.
He sent an email to my wife and I wherein he 'fired' me from counseling, and then he claimed that he had never had to do that before in 11 years (clearly a lie on top of a lie). After 'firing me' from counseling, my wife left me, took our daughter away, has moved into a home with her alcoholic brother & has emptied our ENTIRE bank account. Firstly, Dalton has no education or certification to practice therapy in the state of Oregon. He hasn't been in practice for 11 years as he states on his website. Look up his business registry info & his WHOIS domain - he's an online ghost. He practices a version of regression therapy (very dangerous...can lead to suicide) - his techniques combine hypnotherapy, guided visualizations & two way dialoguing with "Jesus". RUN FAST if u want to save ur marriage. I’ve now spoken to 2 other men who sought counsel from Navah, & they’ve shared the exact same experience: Joseph Dalton simply makes list after list of negative attributes about u & shares them to ur wife. “Unreachable, unteachable, harsh, critical, angry, hypocrisy, inner pain, etc.” Effectively, he assigns blame to the husband (because he knows who’s paying him - the wife). Then, u go home with a wife who has more doubt and anxiety than ever before.
THE SESSIONS: To begin, Dalton asked us to make lists of 'ways my spouse has hurt me'. After 3 sessions, I was frustrated that he hand’t gone over the list of 'ways my spouse has hurt me' or any other assignments he gave us. Now began the rift between Dalton & us. I expressed that I'm in the doghouse with my wife for these unresolved issues, & that I would really like to understand when we’ll review the assignments. Dalton’s attitude shifted against me. He began to argue with me, & at one point, saying I 'remind him of a lawyer' & that I'm 'lawyering him'. This alarmed me, because on 4 occasions the told us his father was an attorney who’d abused him his entire childhood emotionally, psychologically & physically. I suspect this was countertransference. I asked him if he feels that I remind him of his father & if that's bothering him. He reacted by tossing his pencil down, rolling his eyes & head, & with a chuckle, he asked, 'what...so now you're psychoanalyzing me?' At any point, if Dalton did not get 100% agreement & compliance from me, he would say, 'you're unreachable' & ‘unteachable’. He wrote down many many lists of character flaws. My wife would collect his notes about my character flaws for her records. The list reads like a list of symptoms for any number of behavior disorders or mental illnesses. Googling these words online yielded search results for sociopathy, bordering personality disorder, narcissism & more - as u can imagine, I was crushed at the thought that I am struggling with one of these disorders. When Dalton presented us with the list, he told me, "This is who u are, Derek." I then replied, "I can definitely see how I react in some of these ways when I'm experiencing stress or danger." He replied, "No, you're lying to urself; THIS is who u are & no one in ur life is willing to admit it to u because they're afraid of how you're going to attack them for it." I replied & said, "No, that's not who I am - those are some behaviors I express as a reaction to stress, & I want to work on improving in those areas. He replied & said "you're lying to urself". He continued to press in & said that I'm lying, a hypocrite, & not reachable. Then, in a random shift of the conversation, he looked at me & said 'if u engage with her sexually, & you're not connected emotionally, then u're violating ur wife...& if it's not happening in a way where you're emotionally connected, then stop having sex...it's a violation" Then, he asked me to speak to my wife & to repeat after him:
DALTON: "In the past when we've had sex, was that violating for u?"..."What did u do with all the pain?" & so on.
I contacted him and pleaded with him to reach out to my wife - to help me win her back. He never replied. I tried again. He never replied. Run fast if you want to save your marriage. This guy is a classic con artist, in the name of Jesus. The worst.
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Joseph Dalton destroyed my marriage. Firstly, my marriage was not stellar to begin with: My wife was abusive to me and was experiencing post partum depression. She wanted us to go to a Christian psychologist. At the recommendation of a church pastor, my wife contacted Joseph Dalton for marraige counseling. He was extraorinarily expensive - about $400 each session. He came off decently at first, and he seemed to be a psychologist. He's not. In fact, he has no license to practice any form of counseling in the state of Oregon. He has no degree from a higher learning intitution. Effectively, he's convinced some local pastors in Bend, Oregon to send people to him for snake oil. On his website, Navahretreats.com, he falsley claims that he's been in business for over 11 years. This is easily proven as false. Look up his whois domain info. Look up his LLC info online. He had a bogus blog previously, and in the 'about' section of that blog, he states that his practices were too unorthodox for the church he was attending, so he started Navah instead. Let's see...so his methods are too risky for a church and are not rooted in a degree program from a college.
So what happened in counseling? How did Joseph Dalton of Navah counseling in Bend, Oregon destroy my marraige? (By the way, I've since spoken with 3 other men who have told me the same story nearly to the T)
Joseph Dalton destroyed my marriage. Firstly, my marriage was not stellar to begin with: My wife was abusive to me and was experiencing post partum depression. She wanted us to go to a Christian psychologist. At the recommendation of a church pastor, my wife contacted Joseph Dalton for marraige counseling. He was extraorinarily expensive - about $400 each session. He came off decently at first, and he seemed to be a psychologist. He's not. In fact, he has no license to practice any form of counseling in the state of Oregon. He has no degree from a higher learning intitution. Effectively, he's convinced some local pastors in Bend, Oregon to send people to him for snake oil. On his website, Navahretreats.com, he falsley claims that he's been in business for over 11 years. This is easily proven as false. Look up his whois domain info. Look up his LLC info online. He had a bogus blog previously, and in the 'about' section of that blog, he states that his practices were too unorthodox for the church he was attending, so he started Navah instead. Let's see...so his methods are too risky for a church and are not rooted in a degree program from a college.
So what happened in counseling? How did Joseph Dalton of Navah counseling in Bend, Oregon destroy my marraige? (By the way, I've since spoken with 3 other men who have told me the same story nearly to the T)
Dalton effectively tossed a grenade into the room & walked away. Session after session, Dalton would assign blame to me for all of our problems, but he never addressed the blame of my wife AT ALL. He would make list after list of nagative words about me: self-centered, angry, blaming, hardened, not loving.
He sent an email to my wife and I wherein he 'fired' me from counseling, and then he claimed that he had never had to do that before in 11 years (clearly a lie on top of a lie). After 'firing me' from counseling, my wife left me, took our daughter away, has moved into a home with her alcoholic brother & has emptied our ENTIRE bank account. Firstly, Dalton has no education or certification to practice therapy in the state of Oregon. He hasn't been in practice for 11 years as he states on his website. Look up his business registry info & his WHOIS domain - he's an online ghost. He practices a version of regression therapy (very dangerous...can lead to suicide) - his techniques combine hypnotherapy, guided visualizations & two way dialoguing with "Jesus". RUN FAST if u want to save ur marriage. I’ve now spoken to 2 other men who sought counsel from Navah, & they’ve shared the exact same experience: Joseph Dalton simply makes list after list of negative attributes about u & shares them to ur wife. “Unreachable, unteachable, harsh, critical, angry, hypocrisy, inner pain, etc.” Effectively, he assigns blame to the husband (because he knows who’s paying him - the wife). Then, u go home with a wife who has more doubt and anxiety than ever before.
THE SESSIONS: To begin, Dalton asked us to make lists of 'ways my spouse has hurt me'. After 3 sessions, I was frustrated that he hand’t gone over the list of 'ways my spouse has hurt me' or any other assignments he gave us. Now began the rift between Dalton & us. I expressed that I'm in the doghouse with my wife for these unresolved issues, & that I would really like to understand when we’ll review the assignments. Dalton’s attitude shifted against me. He began to argue with me, & at one point, saying I 'remind him of a lawyer' & that I'm 'lawyering him'. This alarmed me, because on 4 occasions the told us his father was an attorney who’d abused him his entire childhood emotionally, psychologically & physically. I suspect this was countertransference. I asked him if he feels that I remind him of his father & if that's bothering him. He reacted by tossing his pencil down, rolling his eyes & head, & with a chuckle, he asked, 'what...so now you're psychoanalyzing me?' At any point, if Dalton did not get 100% agreement & compliance from me, he would say, 'you're unreachable' & ‘unteachable’. He wrote down many many lists of character flaws. My wife would collect his notes about my character flaws for her records. The list reads like a list of symptoms for any number of behavior disorders or mental illnesses. Googling these words online yielded search results for sociopathy, bordering personality disorder, narcissism & more - as u can imagine, I was crushed at the thought that I am struggling with one of these disorders. When Dalton presented us with the list, he told me, "This is who u are, Derek." I then replied, "I can definitely see how I react in some of these ways when I'm experiencing stress or danger." He replied, "No, you're lying to urself; THIS is who u are & no one in ur life is willing to admit it to u because they're afraid of how you're going to attack them for it." I replied & said, "No, that's not who I am - those are some behaviors I express as a reaction to stress, & I want to work on improving in those areas. He replied & said "you're lying to urself". He continued to press in & said that I'm lying, a hypocrite, & not reachable. Then, in a random shift of the conversation, he looked at me & said 'if u engage with her sexually, & you're not connected emotionally, then u're violating ur wife...& if it's not happening in a way where you're emotionally connected, then stop having sex...it's a violation" Then, he asked me to speak to my wife & to repeat after him:
DALTON: "In the past when we've had sex, was that violating for u?"..."What did u do with all the pain?" & so on.
I contacted him and pleaded with him to reach out to my wife - to help me win her back. He never replied. I tried again. He never replied. Run fast if you want to save your marriage. This guy is a classic con artist, in the name of Jesus. The worst.