A few years ago I was going through a divorce with my ex-wife. We split up for a year and got back together and then decided to end our relationship. We did the Divorce Decree ourselves and I agrred to pay her a monthly amount.
I removed my name off our bank accounts, utilities, debts,credit cards, etc
I paid her as well as paid for auto insurance, auto repairs, groceries and utilities. I saved all of the receipts.
I moved out but still saw my children 3 times per week. When lease was up she moved in with family and the children moved in with me full time, 7 days per week. We also at this time were still friends and cordial towards each other.
Note: (The proper thing at this time would have been to ammend our divorce decree, but I'm not a lawyer, so I didn't know)
She remarried and I thought it was in the children's best interest to have BOTH parents involved so we split custody. Obviously while I had full custody and then joint, I did not pay her child support.
She claimed I never paid child support and I received a subpoena from her attourney.
I did pay her child support, and I over paid, but she married a new person who was also divorced and he knew a loop hole in the law. He knew I paid her, but I did not write "Child Support" in the memo line on the checks.
I went to Equal Rights for Divorced Fathers for assistance but her new husband's family had money and an attorney on retainer. I took the advice of ERDF and hired a bad attorney Edward Miley( a different report him will be filed)
We went to court and I brought over 100 pages of receipts and copies of checks and organized it in chronological order as well as geographical location of receipts due to me moving across town and I wanted to prove I purchased food, clothing, etc in her area of town and not mine.
The judge ordered us to go and TRY family court arbitrator, I tried to explain that it was a waste of time and money because we couldn't agree on anything and that was the reason we were in court. Also, with arbitration the fees are based on income, which in my opinion is wrong. It should be a flat fee, and free if no outcome is determined.
The judge, nor my attourney advised me to pay child support on our initial day in court, the reason I din't was because we had the kids 50/50. and also that was why we were in court to determine if I owed the money she claims or does she owe me a refund for over paying.
A few months later we returned to Court, the judge claimed my money I gave was a "Gift in Kind" (like I'm mother Theresa).
I was asked why I overpaid, I said because I would would rather suffer with less than my children suffer.
He asked my ex if at the time I paid her and helped her financially if she thought it was support or a gift?
She stated she thought it was support. I thought case was over, I win. But No, he asked why I didn't pay last few months and I explained why, He said I owe all the money and garnished my wages as well as ordered me to pay her leagal fees. I was alos dressed in a suit, clean shaven to show respect so I wouldn't have a biased judge.
I did the math and told Judge hoskin that his figures I iwed included the time I had the children full time and requested a re-adjustment be made. He did, the I explained that he didn't subtract the interest out for that time either. He seemed disturbed that he was being corrected and did not remove the interest on the entire amount. Alos, I had to keep medical insurance on the children, but my ex did not need to.
A year laster when I was getting laid off from work I was trying to get my child support payments reduced, as well as change the location to my children's school do to the fact I had them during the school week and she had them on weekends. 4 days per week I worked 7pm-3am; at 5am I had to start and take the 3 children to highschool,middleschool, and elemantary school. I thought the judge would have some sort of compassion because at least I'm trying and I'm not a dead beat father and it was really tough to do this everyday. Judge hoskin did not care. He claimed it's what I wanted so deal with it. So I did. I also hired a new lawyer, He tried to ask Judge hoskin about my ex wife admitting to taking the money I gave her as support and not a gift that the case should have been settled.
But arrogant Charles Hoskins said he could not bring up an old case and that too much time had passed for an appeal.
Sorry for the long " poor me story" but i just want tp help other people who may be getting ready to get a divorce in the near future and 20 minutes of reading could save you thousands of dollars. get a GOOD Lawyer, do the research, spend the money and never do divorce decree yourself, if you never been to court and you see Hoskin as your judge, do everything to get a different judge.
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A few years ago I was going through a divorce with my ex-wife. We split up for a year and got back together and then decided to end our relationship. We did the Divorce Decree ourselves and I agrred to pay her a monthly amount.
I removed my name off our bank accounts, utilities, debts,credit cards, etc
I paid her as well as paid for auto insurance, auto repairs, groceries and utilities. I saved all of the receipts.
I moved out but still saw my children 3 times per week. When lease was up she moved in with family and the children moved in with me full time, 7 days per week. We also at this time were still friends and cordial towards each other.
Note: (The proper thing at this time would have been to ammend our divorce decree, but I'm not a lawyer, so I didn't know)
She remarried and I thought it was in the children's best interest to have BOTH parents involved so we split custody. Obviously while I had full custody and then joint, I did not pay her child support.
She claimed I never paid child support and I received a subpoena from her attourney.
I did pay her child support, and I over paid, but she married a new person who was also divorced and he knew a loop hole in the law. He knew I paid her, but I did not write "Child Support" in the memo line on the checks.
I went to Equal Rights for Divorced Fathers for assistance but her new husband's family had money and an attorney on retainer. I took the advice of ERDF and hired a bad attorney Edward Miley( a different report him will be filed)
We went to court and I brought over 100 pages of receipts and copies of checks and organized it in chronological order as well as geographical location of receipts due to me moving across town and I wanted to prove I purchased food, clothing, etc in her area of town and not mine.
The judge ordered us to go and TRY family court arbitrator, I tried to explain that it was a waste of time and money because we couldn't agree on anything and that was the reason we were in court. Also, with arbitration the fees are based on income, which in my opinion is wrong. It should be a flat fee, and free if no outcome is determined.
The judge, nor my attourney advised me to pay child support on our initial day in court, the reason I din't was because we had the kids 50/50. and also that was why we were in court to determine if I owed the money she claims or does she owe me a refund for over paying.
A few months later we returned to Court, the judge claimed my money I gave was a "Gift in Kind" (like I'm mother Theresa).
I was asked why I overpaid, I said because I would would rather suffer with less than my children suffer.
He asked my ex if at the time I paid her and helped her financially if she thought it was support or a gift?
She stated she thought it was support. I thought case was over, I win. But No, he asked why I didn't pay last few months and I explained why, He said I owe all the money and garnished my wages as well as ordered me to pay her leagal fees. I was alos dressed in a suit, clean shaven to show respect so I wouldn't have a biased judge.
I did the math and told Judge hoskin that his figures I iwed included the time I had the children full time and requested a re-adjustment be made. He did, the I explained that he didn't subtract the interest out for that time either. He seemed disturbed that he was being corrected and did not remove the interest on the entire amount. Alos, I had to keep medical insurance on the children, but my ex did not need to.
A year laster when I was getting laid off from work I was trying to get my child support payments reduced, as well as change the location to my children's school do to the fact I had them during the school week and she had them on weekends. 4 days per week I worked 7pm-3am; at 5am I had to start and take the 3 children to highschool,middleschool, and elemantary school. I thought the judge would have some sort of compassion because at least I'm trying and I'm not a dead beat father and it was really tough to do this everyday. Judge hoskin did not care. He claimed it's what I wanted so deal with it. So I did. I also hired a new lawyer, He tried to ask Judge hoskin about my ex wife admitting to taking the money I gave her as support and not a gift that the case should have been settled.
But arrogant Charles Hoskins said he could not bring up an old case and that too much time had passed for an appeal.
Sorry for the long " poor me story" but i just want tp help other people who may be getting ready to get a divorce in the near future and 20 minutes of reading could save you thousands of dollars. get a GOOD Lawyer, do the research, spend the money and never do divorce decree yourself, if you never been to court and you see Hoskin as your judge, do everything to get a different judge.